The Power of the Right Coach (continued from previous page)
By Denis Waitley
Misery truly does love company, and jealousy creates some of the most miserable people. Surpass the
achievements of your particular social crowd or your business colleagues, and look out for the slings and
arrows of those who wish you were back where they are.
You have to dodge the snide remarks and catty comments. Let them roll right off you. Don't internalize
them. Only pay attention to feedback from those who have similar goals or who are working actively
alongside you to achieve goals of their own.
Motives and fears run deep. Study them in others. The manager who supports you and comforts you
when you're down may like you best when you are in just that state: down and dependent. When you start
succeeding beyond his expectations and comfort level, he may be among the first to get you to back off,
limit your horizons, and lower your goals. Recognize this feedback for the insecurity it is. It will rarely be
objective or well-intentioned.
Even parents and significant family members aren't immune to emotional conflicts that can pollute their
feedback. Many relatives and siblings have difficulty accepting the success of others in the family or
encouraging further success.
Ultimately, nobody else is responsible for your life but you. Nobody else is accountable for your actions
but you. Therefore, nobody's expectations for you and opinions about you are as important as your own.
So make sure your opinions take precedence in your mind over all others, and when you do need to
consult with someone else, think very carefully before you choose exactly who.
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Learn more about Denis Waitley and his many timeless books and audio programs.
By Denis Waitley
Misery truly does love company, and jealousy creates some of the most miserable people. Surpass the
achievements of your particular social crowd or your business colleagues, and look out for the slings and
arrows of those who wish you were back where they are.
You have to dodge the snide remarks and catty comments. Let them roll right off you. Don't internalize
them. Only pay attention to feedback from those who have similar goals or who are working actively
alongside you to achieve goals of their own.
Motives and fears run deep. Study them in others. The manager who supports you and comforts you
when you're down may like you best when you are in just that state: down and dependent. When you start
succeeding beyond his expectations and comfort level, he may be among the first to get you to back off,
limit your horizons, and lower your goals. Recognize this feedback for the insecurity it is. It will rarely be
objective or well-intentioned.
Even parents and significant family members aren't immune to emotional conflicts that can pollute their
feedback. Many relatives and siblings have difficulty accepting the success of others in the family or
encouraging further success.
Ultimately, nobody else is responsible for your life but you. Nobody else is accountable for your actions
but you. Therefore, nobody's expectations for you and opinions about you are as important as your own.
So make sure your opinions take precedence in your mind over all others, and when you do need to
consult with someone else, think very carefully before you choose exactly who.
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Learn more about Denis Waitley and his many timeless books and audio programs.
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